Will you be my advocate?

I often get asked this at consults.

It’s tough because I know there’s this movement happening that is telling people that is what a doula does.  I know that in a way we are advocates, but the way this happens is different depending on who you talk to.  Doulas included seem to not be in agreement.

The more I do this work, the more I see what a tight rope walk it is.  On one hand, we are there to inform families about what is happening to them.  On the other hand, we are not care providers.  Our role starts to go into grey areas when we begin to speak about Read More >>

There are no coincidences

The more I walk down this path the more I believe this to be true.  What’s going to follow is a bit sappy, but this is what is flowing through my mind and body.  It’s a bit personal, but I feel led to share the honesty that is overpowering me at the moment.

When I set off on this path of change there were many choices I made that were within my own power.  We paid off debt and saved so that I could stay home with the kids and then make a career change.  Except when it came down to it, I wasn’t so comfy with dropping my safety net.  I’m not sure I would have gone through with any of it if I had not been laid off from my job.  That was a little over two years ago, and it has been anything but easy.  Fast forward to a few months ago, despite my efforts of certifying and wanting to attend births as a doula not much was happening.  We needed money, so I did my best to get hired by Whole Foods.  I even went in and charmed them the way I always have when seeking jobs.  Only this time the puzzle didn’t fit.  I wondered why and thought that maybe I might never get a paying job again (oh, the thoughts that go through our minds). Fast forward to a few months ago, I joined up with Amazing Births & Beyond.  It must have done something to my confidence, because shortly after signing with them I heard from others who were interested in my services in addition to the leads I’ve enjoyed from them.  The fact that this is working so well now is a testament to how I am finally on the right path.  Which brings me back to my path before I got here.  I’ve wondered recently if perhaps some of it was a fluke?  Then I met Gena Kirby at a Rebozo workshop.  I learned how she too went through somewhat of a life cleansing where her whole world was turned upside down when she set out to live her passion.  They lived like Buddhists, as she put it, with very little possessions to their name.  Later on I read in her blog that her path to doula care started as a server in high end restaurants.  She shared how she had always been on the path of serving others.  It was right then and there that I realized that my five years as a server had prepared me in the same way.  I also don’t think that my business degree or work in that realm was in vain either, since I find myself using even those skills too in my every day dealings. It’s just so fascinating how all this has played out.   I love sitting here pondering how all the right pieces have fit together at the right time, even if I didn’t realize why some of my other efforts wouldn’t work no matter what I did. Which brings me to people….I really feel that every person I have had the pleasure of knowing has served some purpose in my life.  Whether it was as a mentor, a helper, or a person offering confirmation or encouragement to my journey, I’m extremely grateful that I allowed it to happen even when I was unaware of what was unfolding.  Then there are the clients who I have been drawn to even before they chose me to support them during pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, and/or adjusting to another baby being added to the family.  I definitely believe that there is an energy force that draws and connects us.  It’s no coincidence either, because I always leave these experiences with a much needed shift in perspective.  It seems that I’m always being put in situations that aim to restore me back to balance in some way.  

I honestly am so happy that I am doing what I love and am so appreciative that it has been becoming a reality more and more.  Even if another baby is added to our own family, I know this is the work that I will continue to do until my days on earth are done.